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C-section recovery tips

c section recovery - caesarean recovery

Recovering after having a baby takes time, even more so if you’ve had a Caesarean. Here’s how to take care of yourself so you heal, and feel better, faster.

Look after number one, plus one

Once you’re home from hospital, delegate as much as possible to your partner, relatives or good friends. Concentrate on your baby and yourself. ‘It is important that you remain mobile and active, but with time built into your day to rest for long periods. You should not be lifting or pulling heavy objects, or doing any unnecessary cleaning,’ is Allyson’s William’s advice.

Lift lightly

During caesarean recovery don’t lift anything heavier than your baby for up to six weeks so that your tummy muscles have a chance to heal. Your tummy will also suffer less strain if you get up by rolling on your side first, drawing your knees towards your chest, then sitting up and using your hands to push yourself up to stand.

Have a laugh

You’re probably not aware of how much you use your tummy muscles until they’ve been through surgery. So to help lessen the pain or discomfort following a caesarean, hold a soft pillow against your tummy for the first few days, or beyond if you need to, when coughing, laughing, breastfeeding… and doing a poo.

Inside story

On that subject, to make it easier to go to the loo, drink lots and eat plenty of fruit to help keep your stools soft. And to cut down on painful wind – another unpleasant side effect – give fizzy drinks a miss for the first few days at least and drink peppermint tea instead.

Easy exercises

Even if you can’t do much more after your Caesarean than lie or sit down at first, keep all your down-below bits in shape by doing your pelvic floor exercises. These may feel uncomfortable at first but they also help to support your back and your abdomen. ‘Pelvic floor exercises are the most relevant ones to do at this time, as they strengthen the pelvic floor, which supports the abdominal organs including the bladder, says Allyson Williams.‘Your community midwife will be able to give information on other exercises to do when you get to six weeks after the birth. It is not possible to start exercising before this time.’

All about you

To help your caesarean heal, take good care of yourself. That’s not easy with a new baby, so ask for help with chores, shopping, cooking and looking after older siblings so you can focus on you and your newborn. Eat nutritious snacks and meals and drink plenty of water. Get as much rest as possible, relax and take a soothing bath if you can at the end of the day. Literally, put your feet up so that you’re lessening the strain on your tummy muscles and letting them heal up.

Healing touch

Smooth cream or oil into your Caesarean scar to help it heal and fade and to keep it soft so it doesn’t itch as much. Gently massaging the scar once it’s healing well and your stitches have dissolved may also help flatten it over time. You can get specialist caesarean scar lotions or try Bio-Oil, from chemists, or a cocoa butter cream. Massage and reflexology are thought to be helpful for post-caesarean recovery. So find a trained practitioner and indulge yourself – you deserve it.

Feelings

Your emotions will be all over the place after having a baby. You’ll be tired, and may be weepy or depressed, and recovery from c-section may also affect how you feel. Talk to your health visitor or doctor if those feelings don’t pass within a few days. And try Bounty’s Caesarean forum to share how you’re feeling with other mums.

Keep on moving

Go for a walk every day to get your circulation going (important after surgery), strengthen your muscles, have some fresh air and get out of the house. Ask your partner/friend/relative to go with you to push the baby in the buggy or carry him or her in a sling for the first few days after you’re home, or longer, if you still feel a bit wobbly or uncomfortable.

Straight up

During your caesarean recovery time sitting or standing upright may make you feel as if your stitches are going to pop. Don’t worry, they aren’t, so although you may want to hunch over to protect your tummy, try and straighten up gradually to stretch and strengthen your abdominal muscles and protect your back.

Comments

This has been really helpful to read. I have to have a cesarean for a medical concern in July and am worrying about silly things like catheters, epidurals, stitches and recovery. I have 2 other children and their births were totally natural. Just worrying about being able to look after them and want to be home ASAP afterwards. Any advice would be happily received. Good luck to everyone x
Hi all. I am having an elective c-section due to the fact I have had complications throughout the pregnancy. They have said if I was induced it could add additional pressure on the baby's heart and have to have an emergency C-section and emotionally I don't think I can deal with anymore. Reading all of these posts even the negative ones have made me feel relaxed about the procedure. I am aware anything can go wrong with any type of birth but hearing your stories has made me feel at ease. Its my first baby and having him in two weeks tomorrow. I have been feeling very anxious about the operation but now better thanks to you guys so THANK YOU.xx
I just wanted to share my c-section experience with you, as i was terrified when told i had to have a section and now its all over i feel a bit silly because it wasnt a bad experience at all!! I was 37 weeks pregnant with baby number 6 when i found out that our daughter was footling breech, this was a massive shock as all of my other babies were born quickly and easily naturally, ( 1 was born 15 mins after arrival at hosp!!) I cried evryday for a week and a half until my surgery, as i am terrified of surgery, and the thought of an epidural. The staff at the hosp were fantastic, and the whole experience wasnt at all as i expected, the staff kept us both calm, and i cant thank them enough for that, i was also really worried about the recovery time, as with 5 children already at home i thought it was going to be a nightmare, but i felt alot better than i expected to feel and could get around easily, My husband took 3 weeks off work and was fantastic, but i think the shock of having to have the c-section was soo much worse than the section itself!! So if you have to have a section please dont worry and just think that you are getting a precious little bundle at the end of it. From never wanting to have a section, i would quite happily have another one!!!
Good evening everyone, I wanted to thank everyone for taking the time to post tips following their experiences of c-sec. I am having an elective section in December and although I feel very grateful that my biggest worry is now only the epidural it is reassuring to know that the experience is generally positive x
I'm having a planned csection in 2weeks and im nervous. Any advice/tips anyone can offer me? extra things to take to the hospital? how long was your stay?
Just wanted to reassure anyone reading this that will be having a c section that the worst bit is actually thinking about it the night before! I had an elective section 6 weeks ago and the consultant and midwives were fantastic, the whole experience in theatre was calm and positive and, although I was sore afterwards it soon eases and I have had no problems recovering. I think the key is to keep yourself as fit as you can up to birth and, as other ladies on here have said, get yourself up and moving after a few hours, but take it easy and give yourself time to recover once home!!
Had a c section 5 weeks ago, keep getting cramps like period pains but stronger, with no sign what so ever of my period ( haven't had one since I stopped bleeding) I think it's the nerves repairing themselves but it is quite painful but that's the only pain I have ever had from my c section! I loved the whole experience! And deffinatily wouldn't moan if I had I do it again! X
Dear 12sarah I would strongly suggest that you ask your GP or consultant to refer you to a specialist women's health physiotherapist who can assess whether your symptoms can be improved. In some areas it is possible to self refer to these services. Best of luck.
I had a emergency-c-section 5 months ago and i am still having no end of trouble with recovery i have had trouble with my bladder and my bowels none stop since. ive got pains shootin thru my stomach but been told by the doctor that it cud stay like this until a year after!! wud never do it again ever!! x
Hi just wonderd when people started excersing and what sort ? And how they felt, I had a c-section on 28th june i was up out of bed dressed 5 hours after and have been mobile since. I started driving after 2 weeks including a 3 hour drive to family after 3weeks, And have done everything 99% myself, But havnt done any excersise and im dying to start got lots to lose :-)
Hello,i had a planned c-section on the 19 june 2012 due to a medical problem. Everything went well until day 3 when i felt a sharp pain on my left side along the lower abdominal muscles slightly above the scar. the pain was so severe that i could hardly move my left leg,walk or even turn in bed. lifting the baby was difficult and this pain felt musclular and there was some slight swelling over the area.Had an ultrasound scan and there was a trace of fluid below the painful area.Was put on antibiotics and it seemed to ease. i also used a muscle rub in that area and that really eased it.Guess it was a muscle sprain from the pulling during the c-section. I think c-sections are not the same for everyone.Some people have it easy and others like me not so easy.The scar healed very well and i am now recovered .
Hi ninkynok29, don't know about your area or what help the local council might be able to give, but check with your Kids Schools. The may either operate a walking bus scheme, where they collect Kids and they walk together under supervision, or they also might have a minibus where for a small fee you pay for them to collect your Kids and ferry them to and from. My School did this when they realised that there was a problem with the local bus service being over loaded at peak times. Also if you speak to their Schools they may be able to arrange someting in the short term for your selves under a special circumstances sort of thing. Good luck:-)
Really worried as Im about to have my 4th and will have to start walking the kids to school as soon as Im out of hospital as I have no family or relatives or friends to help. Walking 4 kids to 1 school and then 3 kids to another school which are about 1 mile apart. What can I do? Is there any help out there I can ask?
Really worried as Im about to have my 4th and will have to start walking the kids to school as soon as Im out of hospital as I have no family or relatives or friends to help. Walking 4 kids to 1 school and then 3 kids to another school which are about 1 mile apart. What can I do? Is there any help out there I can ask?
Bgb4bbb When is your baby due and how come u allowed to have a 5th section I'm goin in for my fourth and basically been cornered to get sterilised n if u don't mind me asking what age gaps are your children
hi all i have had 4 c sections and now pregnant with my 5 c section and to be honest with you all i was out of bed and running around with in 2-3 hours of havin the kids and i healed really well never stayed in bed for longer than needed but some days are harded than others so take care and enjoy!!!!
i had my 1st c section with my 1st baby 2 months ago.. and i feel quite back to normal now... i was so happy with it that i would like to go for c section every time i have a baby :D recovery n healing was so good n normal...even can lift heavy objects but do try to avoid them..
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I had my first baby 6 weeks ago by C section, left the hospital 24 hours after the operation, and never had a full day in bed ,I was up and about looking after myself and baby with a massive help with my partner, being so active helped me to recover(I didn't do any liftting to help my tummy heal)fast. Still wearing my maternity trousers and big knickers to help me feel comfortable and not to press on the scar. On my experience I only found really hard on the first night at the hospital I was on my own with little help from the nurses to help me get out of the bed or to get the baby from his cot or to go to toilet to clean myself, everything was a stragle. Was much better when I got home on the comfort of my house and a great partner to helpped me, every day I feel better and stronger nearly back to normal me :)
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i have had two c-sections both emergency but different first child i had a general and hellp syndrome pre-eclampsia, second not got far with normal labour and baby in dis-stress, i had epidural on the second with gas n air and fine with both, recovery was ok after both sections but i did find that with my first i used boxer shorts to be more comfy whilst healing, i don't have a choice if pregnant again im a c-section forever as far as i know now due to previous history, but i do like the speed that the baby arrives with and if given the option for a section would like to have a again unless i could try naturally.
i am due my 3rd c-sect april, i am still dreading it since the first - i hate the epidural/spinal block. i am a type 1 diabetic and am huge already at 24 weeks, so i have to do wats best for baby. not sure whether to ask for general, but want skin-to-skin contact and to breastfeed - so will just have to wait and see.
Hi i had a c section with my first baby. it was amazing id rather go through that than normal labour, i was adamant on having a general rather than an epidural, reason for this it was an emergency c section and didnt fancy some doctor rushing and sticking a needle in my spine. He was 5 weeks early and was in neonatal for a week, tbh i preferred this as i stayed at the hospital with him all the time and had the nurses help if i needed. The pain is quite bad but not as bad as some people make out. The nurses dragged me out of bed the following day and made me get a shower which at the time was torture but I didnt want to be away from my boy, so you just get on with it. Two days later i was discharged and was taking ibuprofen and paracetamol but felt fine in general. I had my son on the monday and moved house on the friday... so it is not as bad as you think i was driving three weeks after and 18 months on my scar has nearly disappeared. I would opt agian for a c section. dont be scared, its not that bad. ;) xx
Hi I had my first ever c section 2 year ago due to placenta previa! After the sergery been taken to recovery I felt a strange anxious feeling and when in the room was shacking unconrolbly I hadn't a clue wot was going on! Is it normal for that to happen my birth partner put it down to all the drugs I'd been given!
Hi to Sweety16 and all other woman who gave birth with cesarian or naturally and then had problems walking straight or getting out of bed. I had the same problem for two months after the birth and the doctors in uk did not pay any attention to that although i could not get even out of the house for the baby imunisation etc. Anyway when i got back to Bulgaria i had am MRI scan and they discovered a huge disc herniation on my spine. All of the docs and e en proffesors here said that I needed a spine surgery. But since i am only 28 and surgery is pretty serious and you cant never really fully recover from a spine surgery i tried something dofferent. My last hope was to go for a balneology treatment here in Bulgaria. I went and stayed for 13 days. I had 5 procedures a day which included back massage, water aerobic and other stuff. Near the middle of it i even felt worse, but they said it was cause it worked and by the last day i could walk straigt up. After two weeks at home i was fine, back to my own self. I could not beleive it. Now i have to go there twice a year. But no matter what it is better then operation and i will gladly pay 1k£ for not feeling the way i was before. I am just saying, the c section should not have such an impact on your helth. Gwt everytjing checked if you do not feel right after more then a few weeks. I did not even care about the c section due to the pain i got from my back. So good luck everyone! I wish you all healthy pregnancies and babies :)
Hi I had my 1st c section in July with my 2nd child, I was up out of bed after 8 hours and went home 1 day after as I was anxious about other members of my family and wanted to be at home asap! I recommend getting up and moving as soon as you feel up to it as I also have an ongoing back prob & also had pelvic arth, was on crutches from 20 wks preg so get up and moving is my advice its easier i n the long run!
i had normal delivery but some stitches.it is not heal stil now.now my baby is five week old.i feel pain in stitches.
hi I had a c-section in june, my stitches are still hurting me and my stomach is bloated and soft and i look fat? is this normal? what can i do to get rid of the stomach?
hi I had a c-section in june, my stitches are still hurting me and my stomach is bloated and soft and i look fat? is this normal? what can i do to get rid of the stomach?
hi I had a c-section in june, my stitches are still hurting me and my stomach is bloated and soft and i look fat? is this normal? what can i do to get rid of the stomach?
c-sections really aint that bad i am to have my third in feb. The healing process differs for every one. I was fine after having both of mine. I was told i had to rest for up to 6 weeks but found that i could not sit still. I was up and about doing everything as normal when i got home. i was really worried about having my first c-section but now it seems wierd i am looking forward to this one. crazy i know. but from the stories i have heard about having normal birth, i know which i would choose lol x
hi i had to ave a c-section on my first baby now i mite ave to ave another and i dont really want one my son is 10 months old and my belly never healed propley nw midwifes and doctors sayin i may need another dependin if i get ill again i am abit worried really i dont know if i shud be tho.:(
Hi I got C section, four month back, but still my tummy is soft and I feel very uncomfortable with a occasional pain . It will be nice enough if o get some remidial ideas. Thanks
I'm due for my first c-section at the end of August and am so nervous I keep having nightmares about it!! Nice to read some positive experiences :-D
Hi all just thought I would share my c section experiences. I am due to have my 5th baby, 4th by c section at the beg of Aug. Touch wood I have had so far 3 fantastic sections and have been back up and as near to normal in 2 weeks even driving. Anybody who is having to have one and Is worried please don't be it's not as bad as it sounds :-)
tips very helpful. thanks
hi there i had the an emg c-section i was two weeks over due the day i went to hospital 4 induction after that tablet my baby got disturbed they done c-section my baby is 6 months now but my back pain is not goin away my backache is really bad some times i cant get up from the bed or if im sitting i cant stand up stright away (c section)is not good normal dlivery is good i had my first baby with normal delivery......
Hi there, i just wanted to share some great info for any mums to be who have to have a section or have chosen an elective section. I had my wee bundle 6 weeks ago now and had to have a section at 37 weeks due to placenta previa. I wanted to have a natural birth but this was taken out of my hands, so i had to get my head around having a c section. The one thing which i worried about was the healing of the scar, as i had heard horror stories about it! A friend suggested to start drinking 30mls of aloe vera gel for a few weeks before the section - drinking it every morning before breakfast and then also to apply the pure aloe vera gelly to the scar after the operation. I was told to try Forever Living Products (the biggest aloe vera producers in the world) and decided to give it a go, as i am quite into herbal/organic options rather than chemical! The results were actually amazing: I didnt need to take one single painkiller or paracetmal after i left the hospital (4 days after the op) I could walk easily up and down the stairs and was even walking round the park with my wee one in the pram at day 5! I applied the gel to my scar every morning after my shower and within 2 weeks my midwife said i had one of the 'best' scars she had seen in a long time! I had no weeping or pain at the scar - it is now like a thin pencil line (barely visible). My bleeding pretty much stopped after the first week which was bliss! Due to my brilliant healing i have decided to become a distributor for these products, as they are not just pregnancy related they are for general well being and I can be a true case study for them! I am still taking the gel as a drink every morning (normally at the 6am feed!!) and i truly believe it has given me a spring in my step since the birth!! If you want to have a look at the products go to www.naturesdesire.co.uk I hope this is helpful to anyone out there who is worried about healing from a section or even a natural birth!
Hi there, i just wanted to share some great info for any mums to be who have to have a section or have chosen an elective section. I had my wee bundle 6 weeks ago now and had to have a section at 37 weeks due to placenta previa. I wanted to have a natural birth but this was taken out of my hands, so i had to get my head around having a c section. The one thing which i worried about was the healing of the scar, as i had heard horror stories about it! A friend suggested to start drinking 30mls of aloe vera gel for a few weeks before the section - drinking it every morning before breakfast and then also to apply the pure aloe vera gelly to the scar after the operation. I was told to try Forever Living Products (the biggest aloe vera producers in the world) and decided to give it a go, as i am quite into herbal/organic options rather than chemical! The results were actually amazing: I didnt need to take one single painkiller or paracetmal after i left the hospital (4 days after the op) I could walk easily up and down the stairs and was even walking round the park with my wee one in the pram at day 5! I applied the gel to my scar every morning after my shower and within 2 weeks my midwife said i had one of the 'best' scars she had seen in a long time! I had no weeping or pain at the scar - it is now like a thin pencil line (barely visible). My bleeding pretty much stopped after the first week which was bliss! Due to my brilliant healing i have decided to become a distributor for these products, as they are not just pregnancy related they are for general well being and I can be a true case study for them! I am still taking the gel as a drink every morning (normally at the 6am feed!!) and i truly believe it has given me a spring in my step since the birth!! If you want to have a look at the products go to www.naturesdesire.co.uk I hope this is helpful to anyone out there who is worried about healing from a section or even a natural birth!
i had a planned c section on 8/3/11 the build up to it was quite scary but it really was not that bad at all even the spinal block was only a bit of a scratch which was the thing i was fearing most lol but the numbness it gives is unreal the doctors asked me to try move my legs and i was amazed that i couldn't..i recovered really quick too was out of hospital 47hours later,i was up and mobile the next morning although i did try to get out of bed 2 hours after surgery which was not a good idea lol everybody has said i am looking well for a c section and i feel great too..good luck to anyone having c section if i was to have anymore kids i would defo have c section again but i have a boy age 6 and lil girl now 6 weeks old so no more for me :)
i had an emergancy c-section on the 31st of december after going 16 days over due and two days in first stage of labour with my son back to back with me and 2 hours pushing they finaly told me that he was stuck and distressed and i was going to have to have a c-section and ill admit i was petrified but once i was in surgery and i saw my son for the first time he was born at 9.35pm (just in time for the new year) at 8lb 10.5oz i was thankfull that i had had the c-section i just wished they had done the c-section 3 days before when i first arrived at the hospital i found that after i arrived hime i had alot of help from the family and gave me quality time with my son i think i would elect for a c-section next time as i had quite a difficult time getting in to labour with my son and also as stated by leandra607 my changng table was a god send after my c-section with out that i would have definatly felt like a spare part and it ment that i still felt use full as i was able to dress and change my son while my partner did the house work. to princesspossum i am terribly affraid of needles and i had the epidural during the labour before having my c-section i found it brilliant and would recomend and the position you have to sit in you can see what there doing and hurt no more than a blood test and reaky isnt as bigger needle as you would think x
I am 24 and half weeks pregnant and am having an elective Caesarean due to a medical condition. It has been helpful to read about the C-section procedure, but daunting at the same time. My main concern, apart from our baby being born safely, is the epidural as I have a fear of needles.
I had an emergency C-section on 30th jan. I wished to have a water birth but after 15 hrs the contractions had slowed down and lost power. I was then sent by ambulance to the main hospital where they monitored me for 2 hrs, put on the hormone drip to get things moving again and have an epidual, both of which I hated the idea of. After 12hrs I was advised by the midwife that the C-section was the way to go now but the surgeon had other ideas (a man) and advised to leave it another 2hrs to see if I could go the whole way, so even though my gut was screaming at me to give in, I sat there as I was told and managed 8cm. My son was produced at 12.13pm weighing 9lb 9.5oz (so now very grateful he was a lazy boy). For me the C-section was a means to an end, the recovery has been as I expected, although I hated having to rely on people as I am a self confessed independant, control freak by nature. Think I will elect for C-section again as I cant stand the thought of going through all of this again unprepared. Birth plan should just be "get to hosp, have baby" as I first thought. then maybe I wouldn't have felt so cheated. Top tip, ensure you get a changing table, I thought we didn't need one (the floor is fine and free) however I would of suffered baby blues if we hadn't of got one after C-section. emotionally needed to connect with baby without pain of holding over wound as wasn't getting eye contact due to breastfeeding and family removing him to allow me to "rest", this gave me quality time with my son. Enjoy your baby as I will.
Both of my babies were born by emergancy c-section after undergoing 10-12 hour est. labours. The first time I got an infection in my wound and was re-admitted to hospital for another week but was pretty mobile after that. This time however because my old scar ruptured and I had a spinal I felt the pain immediately after and recovery has been a lot slower. I also got another infection and have spent at least five weeks on painkillers, anti-inflammatories and antibiotics. If I push it too hard doing the daily tasks I know about it later and know to take it a bit easier...not easy with a new baby and a 3 yr old. I think its great that some people recover really well from this operation but its not been the case for me. Some people just recover better than others and each recovery for each operation is different also.
Reply to RACHYKINSANDBUMP Reading your post felt like it's mine! I had extactly the same expiriens, I'v gone throu whole labour and end up on theatre with unrecognise breech! Also after I felt like disabled for more than a week could't do anythink myself. From getting up to go to the toilet, to laying down - absolutely everything I needed help with! Felt embarased for firs few days but after I was to tired and in to much pain to think about that. NEVER felt anything like it! Pain was unberable. I'm already scared to have another baby!
I'm going in for my fourth Caesarean end of April and must say am quite looking forward to it. My first was emergency followed by two electives which were positively dreamy as the screen was put down so I got to see my babies come out without seeing any of the nasty bits as my huge tummy was obscuring the cut! (A much better and nicer view than a vaginal delivery, might I add!) My third son even grabbed my finger and held on as he was being pulled out and both he and his older brother were put straight onto my chest to find the breast for skin-on-skin cuddles while I was being stitched up! And the best is that with each C-section my recovery has been quicker. Last time I was up the morning after, fetching my own breakfast on a tray while the lady next to me who had a drugfree natural delivery an hour before me but had torn so badly she had to have an epidural to be stitched up was still on a drip and catheter unable to move and cursing. Another bonus is all my babies have always had the most beautiful round little heads and without the pain and exhaustion of labour, you can really focus on their wonderful entry into this world, knowing, in my case, you are sparing them a traumatic birth and distress (of course with knowledge that natural birth not always possible - did try that with my first and can only say thank God we live in the 21st century or we both might not have been here!). At the end of the day, birth is a means to an end, a precious baby and the start of life and not an end in itself, so enjoy it whichever way (end) it arrives.
id like to reply to the lady about the wind!!!!!!! yes its normal...i thought i had a wild beast inside my tummy for a couple of days i think? but yes its a bit embarrassing but its gota come out..so dont worry it will pass, enjoy your bubba and let it all out. ;)
I just want to say that its brilliant some people manage to heal very quickly, but for some people its not as easy, and its out of our control, unfortunetly i had a traumatic birth experience, where i went the whole labour with the midwives not being able to make their minds up if my baby was breech or not, and despite their doubts they still made me push, only to realise he was, so i was rushed for a c-section only to have a 9lb2oz baby.... iv been in agony since iv got home, and i would love to get up and do everything myself as im usually an independant person, but i just cant, so i think its unfair that people would suggest we put it on... its simply down to whether u heal nicely.. iv only been out a week, so i am hoping i will feel much better very quickly.. but for some people it does take alot of time, and it isnt always easy!!
Hi there I have had 3 sections with 3 totally different recoveries. My first was an emergency section baby very distressed and had to put me to sleep, very painful recovery couldnt help or do anything at all at home. My second section my back waters broke and not my front, they didnt realise until early hours and by this time baby was distressed so ended up with another section, I coped extremely well after this section and people were amazed at my recovery. However this time with my third section (which was a planned section because I have had two sections already) I have bruised quite badly and I am again not able to do anything because it is far too sore. The scar is one neat scar which I am very pleased with and they took there time sewing me up because of all the other scar tissue I had from my previous sections. I am lucky I have fantastic support from my husband as we have a 5 year old and an 18 month old. So the old tale about just get on with is not true, it all depends on how you are after your section and you are very lucky if you have recovered well because that's not always the case, everyone is different :@) x