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Mum friends are a must–have

Mum friends are a must-have

Why do I need new friends?

Pregnancy, giving birth, caring for a new baby and raising children are intense, life-changing experiences. You need support and, no matter how wonderful your partner, midwife or family, nobody understands better than another new mum. Who else will you honestly discuss stitches, piles, reflux, and poo with?

Where will I find mum friends?

You can find mums with babies of all ages right here in the Bounty forums. And try these ideas too...

  • Ante-natal classes
  • NHS ante-natal and post-natal classes and groups
  • Local mother and baby groups run by other mums
  • Baby clinics run by your health visitor
  • The park: wheeling a pram gives you licence to talk to other mums
  • Coffee mornings
  • Baby massage, signing, yoga, music classes

 

TOP TIP: You might have to try a few different groups before you find one that floats your boat. It can be intimidating when you arrive at a new place where everybody seems to know each other and some mums’ groups can seem “cliquey”. Try not to judge from your first visit; give it two or three visits to decide whether you can mingle with these girls or not.

Making new friends
  • Smile, make eye contact, ask how old their baby is, and how they are finding things.
  • Join groups, text and call people and go out for coffee even if you don't know them that well.
  • Get out there! Speak to people. Make the effort - especially when you don't feel like it. If people ask you for
    coffee, GO!
  • Get out of the house every day, and try and see your new friends every week.
  • Be open and kind to other mums you meet; a fantastic friendship can develop from a few humorous remarks
    at the weighing in clinic”.
Making new friends

“Your mum friends understand what you are going through and are as tired and mad as you are! They also may be more understanding than your childless friends are when you’re being boring about your baby. My mum friends are very different to my pre-baby friends. You strike up truly special bonds with people over your first children”, says mum of four, Coral.

Read more on how having kids can change your friendships.

 “You get a ‘partners in crime’ kind of bond. Your mum friends won’t judge you for not coping and can offer support from experience”, says mum of two Emily.

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Comments

Hi I'm 25 I have 2 daughters aged 2 years 3months and 4 months, I've been really struggling to actually make new friends and all my old ones seem to be doing the own things now. I would really like some one other than my partner, mom and sister to talk to. Michwest88@hotmail.com I'm in the Birmingham area x
Hi. Im a first time mum-to-be and my baby boy is due in October, roughly around the 14th. Im a young mum, Im 23, so a lot of my friends are clubbing or travelling still. I have only one friend my age with two boys but she now lives ages away from me. So Id like to meet mums with young babies or are due around the same time as me. email me on lauren.letherby@hotmail.com
hey i am 23 wiv 3 kidz 2,1 n 9 month i live in east london would like to make new friends so feel free to drop me an email mariam.hussain@live.co.uk
Hey, I'm 20 and have a 4 month old baby girl. I'm looking for some girl friends with babies so my little princess can have some of her own little friends too.. :) I live in kent. My email is Jodi.pickford@hotmail.co.uk drop me a message if you want :) xx
Hey, iv got a 7 month old lil boy live in dartford. Drop me a emil lilmizzri@googlemail.com wants some lil friends for my lil man.. Xx
hello all, i have a daughter whos 3 on 19th april and expecting my second daughter on 10th may :) i live near kings lynn, would like to make new friends & always up for a chat. give me a message :) becky
Hi all im 25 and I have a 10 months old baby boy, looking for friends with new/similar age mums in the wembley area or middlesex.. Get in contact monica.kumar@hotmail.co.uk :)
hey there all my name is Vanesa I got 5 months old baby girl. I am looking new friends and we can meet up for coffee or there are lots of baby groups around. I live in Stone email is vlbedford93@btinternet.com and phone number is 07749350929 thank you
Hi all, i have a 10 weeks old baby girl and would like to make new friends with mums i live in Norwich,Aylsham road area..
Hi I'm a new mum to my 8 week old baby boy, and would like to go to a mum and baby group in my area if anyone knows of any! Or if there is anyone living in my area, please get in contact, I live in Hemel Hempstead :)
my name is cheryl got 2 kids alexander age 4 whos due to start fulltime school this september and lucy who is 8months old have no friends and would love to meet new people as much as i love my kids abit of adult conversation and a coffee or nice walk wouldnt go a miss! chezhardy@yahoo.co.uk im in the sunderland area tyne and wear xx
Hi all, i have a 10 month old boy and would like to make new friends with mums im in the wembley area.. :)
I have an 8 week old girl. Live in the Wolverhampton area. Looking for coffee morning and baby groups. To meet new moms and friends.
hi im hayley from Birmingham and am a first time mom to a 9 week old girl and would like to meet new friends with children of a similar age. If anyone would like to chat just drop me an email to hayleyt86@hotmail.co.uk. Thanks x
Hi, Im 41 and have a 7 months old baby boy. I live in Cheltenham and would love to meet other mums in my area: Pittville.
Hi I'm 34 weeks pregnant my little girl is due soon I have other children who are much older, love to make friends I live in bradford
Hi, I'm a first time mum with an 8 week old daughter. Am looking to meet other new mums in the Frimley area as I feel a bit cut off. Having a baby has been the most intense, scary but beautiful experience and I would love to share it with others.
hi im a first time mum my lb is now 4 months old looking for friends in leicestershire area
Hi I'm 21 wks pregnant with 2nd baby, already have a 3 yr old girl, would love to meet some new friends on here and swap stories!
Hi I am Hannah I am 23 and 13 weeks pregnant with my 3rd baby and just want to speak to people and maybe make some new friends :)
Hi bonnie2001 I also live in Devon currently in Exeter and have a gorgeous 7 week old baby boy. I too am looking to meet other mums who are already on are about to embark on the journey of motherhood. How is your pregnancy going? Xx
would like to contact Gazel8888 & MsKing live in middlesex & think we're in similar situations beffizzle@hotmail.co.uk
Hi, I am 29 years old & have an 8 week old daughter. I moved to Derby from Yorkshire a year ago and I would love to meet new people, especially new mums in the Derby area as all my family & friends are in Yorkshire. I want 2013 to be the year I make new friends. Thanks laurenjennings15@yahoo.co.uk
hi i am a 27 yr old mum to be (first time) i really dont have anyone to talk to about my pregnancy and getting ready for a new arrivle other than my mum and auntie (my husband just dont get it lol) i live in worksop and could really use a friend, so if anyone live in the nearby area please heelp me out a little x thanks
I'm a first time mom with 7 week old baby girl who is looking to meet new mums in the stevenage area, dont know any new moms in my area or where to go... Any advice and friendships appreciated...
Hi I am Najwa28 years old 23weeks pregnant.I live in birmingham and,qould like to chat,with mums and exchange our experiences and maybe become mums friens.I speaks also French Arabic and Moroccan.My mail is nourjan84@hotmail.com
Hi I am Najwa28 years old 23weeks pregnant.I live in birmingham and,qould like to chat,with mums and exchange our experiences and maybe become mums friens.I speaks also French Arabic and Moroccan.My mail is nourjan84@hotmail.com
Hi I'm jade have 3 kids in Glasgow
Hi i'm Bonnie I am 29 & 26 weeks pregnant with my first. I live in Asburton, Devon and moved here with my boyfriend 4 months ago. I am looking to make some friends as I dont have any of my own here - most of mine live miles away so dont get to see them much. i spose Im looking to swap pregnancy stories and talk about what the future holds! hope to hear from you soon. Thanks
Hello I am Bonnie, I am 29 & 26 wks pregnant with my first. I live in Ashburton, Devon & looking to make new friends. I moved here with my boyfriend 4 months ago & dont really have my own friends or know anyone else having a baby - most of my friends live miles away so dont get to see them much. id love to swap pregnancy stories and talk about the future im about to embrace... hope to hear from some people soon. Thanks
Hey to anyone who just wants to chat about anything to do with new babies and those inevitable life changes... I'm 28, first time mother of Kayleigh who's now 7 and a half weeks old. I totally agree with the above that says "no matter how good your partner, your midwife or your family, nobody understands better than another new mum". I only have 1 close friend who's got young children, so would appreciate anyone who wants to reach out n just say hi! :) Send us a message on facebook if that's easiest. Samantha Langham
to Lfordy12. I've got a 21 month old girl. also live in Southampton.
I am 5 weeks pregnant and only 19. Little daunting. Looking for mums to be to talk to. I'm in Middlesex. Email me... Milles_93@hotmail.com
Hey. I have a 4 week old boy and a 5 year old boy. Looking to make new friends. I live in southanpton. Anyone local? X
hey am nine weeks preg lookin for someone to chat to xx
Hi all, I'm a 30 year old first time mum to little Nicholas in the Norwich area. I'm quite shy and find it hard to make friends but would love to be able to chat to other mums as my partner works and I am on my own all day :( I'm happy to be contacted via Facebook (Stephanie Jane Burton) :)
Hi i have a 8 wk old baby girl, I'm new to Swindon and so don't know many people, would like to make friends with mums in thr Swindon area, drop me an email if you need any company for walks to the parks etc:) my email is Charlie.cutforthclc@gmail.com
Hey there! Any new mums in Walsall/Aldridge/Streetly area fancy meeting for walks/coffee etc? I'm a first time mum to Alexander, 7 weeks. Email is rmparker78@gmail.com. xx
Hi, I have a 8 week old baby girl and looking to meet mums. I live in Kent/Medway Towns. You are more than welcome to email me on gurkiran.kaur@hotmail.com.
hey im a new mum to my 11 week old little boy and am looking for mums to chat to as my fiance works full time and as i am 18 years old and all my friends are away to uni and havnt got time for me i live in edinburgh , scotland add me on facebook suzy.reid.75@facebook.com thankyou
Hi I have 11 weeks old son and want find some friends in Middlesex, tw75el
Hi I have 10 weeks old son and would like to make some friends in the Middlesex tw75el
Hi. I live in Melling, Liverpool near Kirkby & Maghull. I have a 7 week old little boy & aswell as wanting to meet other new Mums in the area, I'd like to know some good classes/groups to go to. Can anyone help?
Hi, I live in Liverpool, in Melling near Kirkby & Maghull. I've got a 7 week old little boy & would love to meet other Mums in the area. If anyone can suggest some good groups to go to aswell.
Hi I am a new mum in southeast London. SE18 and looking for a new mummy friend. My little girl is 8 weeks old. Thank you
For Megan in Worcester. Our little girl is 8 weeks old. we go to Saffron childrens centre, stanley road. On Tuesdays 1.30 - 3pm. (not on 17th june) it's very welcoming and a really friendly group. Hopefully see you there! Lizzie and Emily.
To Megan, Worcester. Our little girl is 8 weeks old and we go to Saffron childrens centre on Stanley road on Tuesdays 1.30 till 3pm. Its a really friendly group and its free. Hopefully see you there! Lizzie and Emily.
Evening all - I have a 8 week old boy, live in Portsmouth. Let me know if your local.
Hey I'm 4 months pregnant and would like to make some friends in the same position in the Middlesex area!