Why do I need new friends?
Pregnancy, giving birth, caring for a new baby and raising children are intense, life-changing experiences. You need support and, no matter how wonderful your partner, midwife or family, nobody understands better than another new mum. Who else will you honestly discuss stitches, piles, reflux, and poo with?
Where will I find mum friends?
You can find mums with babies of all ages right here in the Bounty forums. And try these ideas too...
- Ante-natal classes
- NHS ante-natal and post-natal classes and groups
- Local mother and baby groups run by other mums
- Baby clinics run by your health visitor
- The park: wheeling a pram gives you licence to talk to other mums
- Coffee mornings
- Baby massage, signing, yoga, music classes
TOP TIP: You might have to try a few different groups before you find one that floats your boat. It can be intimidating when you arrive at a new place where everybody seems to know each other and some mums’ groups can seem “cliquey”. Try not to judge from your first visit; give it two or three visits to decide whether you can mingle with these girls or not.
- Smile, make eye contact, ask how old their baby is, and how they are finding things.
- Join groups, text and call people and go out for coffee even if you don't know them that well.
- Get out there! Speak to people. Make the effort - especially when you don't feel like it. If people ask you for
- Get out of the house every day, and try and see your new friends every week.
- Be open and kind to other mums you meet; a fantastic friendship can develop from a few humorous remarks
at the weighing in clinic”.
“Your mum friends understand what you are going through and are as tired and mad as you are! They also may be more understanding than your childless friends are when you’re being boring about your baby. My mum friends are very different to my pre-baby friends. You strike up truly special bonds with people over your first children”, says mum of four, Coral.
Read more on how having kids can change your friendships.
“You get a ‘partners in crime’ kind of bond. Your mum friends won’t judge you for not coping and can offer support from experience”, says mum of two Emily.