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Reclaim your love life

Reclaim your love life

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Know exactly what you mean! Although exhausted at the end of the day my 7-month old will still sleep through so it's not like I have lack of sleep to blame I just can't face it! Hubby is so understanding but feel like I'm letting him down all the time. Always other things on my mind, keeping the house tidy, sorting out the babys meals and things then I just want my bed! It's not as easy as the article makes it sound to get back on track is it.... although I find a couple of glasses of wine do help me feel more, 'in the mood'!!
My partner and I still find time for the love life, and has become far more spontaneous and exciting! I am surprised I have the energy but having the odd day when I don't feel myself and feel ugly, there is nothing better than being intimate with your partner to make you feel good!
Wao! this tips are really great, because I find it tough combining work and motherhood not to memtion sex. Sometimes I may decide to let my husband have me but after so much stress at work and house chores, am totally exhausted and just go to bed. But I will really work on this to spice my love life all over again.
is not easy at all but i and my husband make it work for us.our 20weeks baby boy is growing fine and our sex and love life is becoming more intrestend
Bring on female viagra!!
We have 6 children with number 7 due in june, 13,12,9,3,2 &1. I have never lost my drive for sex and I put that down to my partner. He always compliments me and takes on far more than any other man I know, Always makes sure I get me time and has never pressured me into making love. I see myself as a deflated balloon when not pregnant but like a beached whale when I am. I often ask him how he can find me attractive he always tells me the same I'm sexy inside and out and he sees the inner me not the withered shell I see when I look in the mirror. Talking definately helps and opening up about how I feel helps too. We are more inlove now than when we first met and every day is like when we first met - butterflys and all. He always makes me feel special and I hope he knows how much I love and appreciate him.
i cant belive reading this i have done things i never thought i would. my sex life is brilliant when there is 3 of us( that not including the baby). many thanks
I still wonder how many other women with babies have a similar experience. My partner stopped wanting to have sex while I was still pregnant; in part because of changing shape but a lot because his baby was growing inside me. Baby is now 8 weeks old and I've become basically just a mother now, not much else and it's driving me crazy that we still haven't had sex. It wasn't my first baby - it was my third.
very helpfull tips but im always shattered by the time ive cooked tea and got our lil boy down, plus then showering so i feel human again!!! i always look forwrd to gettin close with my man but when it comes to it i just want my bed!!!! plus it doesnt feel the same anymore!!!!!!!!!
I am sure the tips mentioned above are very useful, I am yet to practice them though. It feels better to know that what I am going through is very common. I will have to show this to my husband to get some moral support from him. I feel very guilty and exhausted all the time and have no-one to boost me up morally. this article has helped me be a bit positive here...
I fill great after reading the acticle,it bring back my confident and sex life with my husband.I am settle in gradually and my ten weeks old baby girl is also settle in and also growing well.I and my husband do shopping together, go out for one hour live her with my mum to have fun. Thanks Yetunde
I feel a thousand times better about the state of our bedroom and love life after reading this article. I might print it out so I can show it to my husband every time he gets on at me about my "duties".
Ladies, my little boy is 13 months, running me ragged just like yours are I would imagine, but I'll be damned if I let myself turn into a self loathing frumpy mum!! No way! Every now and then a devote a whole day just to me - no washing/cleaning/cooking..nothing but pampering. It's time for little one to visit the grandparents for a sleepover....and of I go. First I do a bit of exercise to get the blood pumping (for me it's riding my horse), then I get a haircut, and pop to the shops to buy myself something new (comfy yet sexy knickers are a must!). I arrange to meet my fiance for a quiet dinner at our favourite pub with a little tipple of my favourite drink, and the rest follows on it's own. Ladies, I know it's hard, but this once in a while treat will make you feel 10 times better, and it will remind YOU that you are still the beautiful women you were before you had your children! If I can do it so can you (and don't you dare feel guilty - you've earned it)!
I know what it feels like, not feeling sexy or wanting to find the energy to have a romantic time after baby goes to bed, I have a 5 month old daughter and yes I curse anyone or anything that comes between me and my relaxing time whenever it may be. However, my husband works shift work and we also never know when we will have some time together so what I suggest mummies, is to be clever.. I ask my husband to "join me in the shower" when my baby has gone down for a nap, so this doesnt cut into my relaxing time and it makes everyone happy. You never know, you might start to feel a bit sexy getting each other all soaped up in the shower....
its not me that needs help in rekindling our missing love life , my husband now only sees a mother and not the woman he married
OMG this advice is really good. But what's even better is the realisation that what i am going through is not unique.My son is also 13 months and very active ; hubby works nights so we only see one another on the weekend never mind getting up to anything. We are both exhasted constantly and i find it really difficult to switch from mummy to sexy partner.
these spice up tips are really useful especially if u get into the mood then hubby automatically follows up :)
all the advice sounds easy enough but when you have had a long and tireing day the last thing you want to think about is getting geared up to have sex! my little girl is 6 months next week and in her own room and my husband works as a lorry driver away quite a bit so getting time together is really hard. he is really good but does not understand how awful i feel i look. he says he loves me no matter what but it does not help me too much in my head. cant help but feel urghh!!
i wish my man was more against the idea! i have 8 weeks left and 4 kids the youngest only being 10 months old. also moving house in 2 weeks. i don't have the energy to be sexy let alone a regular sex life. poor hubby feeling really left out. am gonna try harder but sooooo tired at mo.!
Believe me, my daughter is 13 months now and i just dont feel sexy any more. I have tried getting in the mood but nothing is working so far. I feel am letting my husband down,hes so understanding but i just cant get on it. please help,
My hubby is not as close to me as prior to the birth of our lovely son. I'm not saying I'm not satisfied with mother hood, however trying to get a sex life back on track is the last thing some men want!!! believe me i'm still trying and its been nearly five months, so for other women who think how long will my man desire me again try after 6 months when the baby is more confident and independent
My hubby is not as close to me as prior to the birth of our lovely son. I'm not saying I'm not satisfied with mother hood, however trying to get a sex life back on track is the last thing some men want!!! believe me i'm still trying and its been nearly five months, so for other women who think how long will my man desire me again try after 6 months when the baby is more confident and independent
Thank you so much for your post. My body looks like a deflated balloon and I caught my hubby looking at me with dismay/disgust the other night. Needless to say I felt awful and the thought of sex was out of the question on my side and he doesn't seem too interested anyway. We are in the process of getting our 5 month old sons room fully operational and after reading your post I hope that when he has been 'evicted' from our room into his new nursery and when my body has had another month of sit ups and salads, my hubby might look at me in a new light. It's not all one sided though, I feel so tired and want to sleep when in bed not get all sexed up! It really is a matter of getting both sides trying to rekindle the flame. I will keep on trying...
Shame on him if he was looking at you like that. He shouldnt forget all the things that you have been going through, he should appreciate and help everything you do!!! After i read all these post i realised how lucky I am with my husband. He is more understandable than me and really supporting me in those down-times when i realise how much my body has changed. I wish u all the best, try to sit down with your hubby and tell him everything honestly, many times it works better than u might think.X!
you are not alone,my baby is 13 months now and am still trying to get in the mood,its hard but i try maybe once a week or after two weeks. i have run out of ideas and i feel am letting my husband down,hes very understanding but how long will he take this?? worried,,,,
My children are 4 and 14 months. I also agree my husband is always telling me that i look good and although i am happy with my body i still find getting in the mood for sex a bit of a chore, i love my husband and children but to me that's the last thing on my mind it's hard work being a mother and a wife. Sex was so different before my two children were here but i know i do need to make an effort but i don't want to feel like i have too. Maybe when i finishing breast feeding i should try some viagra!!
The thing that saved me and my hubby was a book from WHSmith called "101 grreat nights of sex (secret sealed seductions for fun loving couples)". You take turns each week picking one and then setting it up which meant we made the effort and things soon got back on track :-)
Hi my little girl is too 13 months old and if anything she's more physically tiring in the day than when she was small. I'm exhausted by the evening, and then you have to juggle full time or part time work which you really wish you didn't have to do so i totally understand how you feel, but i also totally feel for my husband because it must be hard for them to understand how us females are thinking because we are not the best at opening up to our loved ones. It does cross my mind quite often on how to spice things up, and plan to have an intimate night but then the slightest little thing puts me right out of the mood but i think this is my way of not going ahead with it, cause if i'm honest my husband is also great at complimenting me i am just not good at accepting this and again turn this into an argument some how about him not understanding. it is slowly getting better as we have sex at least twice a month now and it it great when it happens i'm now trying for at least once a week. i do belive this is getting better as we are spending slightly more time alone together to re kindle things, but also think that men to need to apprciate what we really have to do and how dramatically our lives and bodies have changed compared to them it's all about give and take......and it is certainly taking time but we are slowly getting there. Chin up ladiesx