Breakfast in bed, or a nice long lie-in without the crumbs - what would make your perfect day? We bust some Mother’s Day myths to discover what mums really want.

Mother’s Day myth: Flowers and chocolates are all you need

What we really want: Flowers and chocolates are lovely, but they don’t last long, and with a little thought they could create something you’ll treasure forever. A letter or homemade card lets you know you’re appreciated, and kids will love making a ‘my mum’ book that they can fill with photos and memories (or you could make one for your own mum). Dads need to think ahead though and have it ready for the morning of the big day – teatime just won’t cut it. Take a look at our ‘things to do for mother’s day’ article for more tips and ideas for kids to try. And if they do want to throw in a bunch of your favourite blooms, remember – mums can smell a garage flower in less time than it takes to say ‘carnation,’ so no flowers at all are better than whatever’s left at the forecourt.

Mother’s Day myth: Mother’s Day is for spending ‘quality time’ with the family

What we really want: When you’re juggling work, kids and household chores a little ‘me time’ is hard to come by, and what many mums crave more than anything is a bit of time off. As Amanda, mum to Leon and Bibi says: “What would I like more than anything? Just some time away from the little ones – love them though I do!”

Time to take a long bath, go shopping alone, read a magazine from cover to cover or even just sit and watch TV uninterrupted is precious. Suggest a ‘Dad and kids’ day – they don’t have to go it alone, but could meet up with their mates and their dads and have fun keeping out of mum’s way for a few hours.

Or try dropping a few hints that what would really help you relax is time off for some serious pampering – spa treatments, a hair appointment or a massage will all hit the spot.

Mother’s Day myth: Mums just want to be alone

What we really want: On the other hand, not every mum wants to escape, and for some, there’s nothing better than a walk in the country, or a day in the park with their little ones away from work and weekday chores.

Importantly, time off doesn’t always have to mean time alone. Most mums would just be happy for someone else to take charge for once – to think about what’s for dinner, step in as family peacekeeper, or notice when the dishes need doing.

Mother’s Day myth: Mums love breakfast in bed

What we really want: Don’t get us wrong, breakfast in bed is a nice idea, just not at 7am. And possibly not in bed either. Make a ‘do not disturb’ sign for your bedroom door and stock up on your favourite magazines or a new book the day before. Dads can earn brownie points by getting the kids up, gently but firmly closing the bedroom door, then dressing them, feeding them, keeping them occupied until you decide to show your face. All could be lost though if the kitchen looks like a bomb’s hit it, so they may need a gentle reminder beforehand to keep an eye on the mess.

Mother’s Day myth: Mums want expensive gifts and meals out

What we really want: Most mums couldn’t give a hoot about how much money their gifts cost. What they want most of all is to feel cared for and appreciated. Whether its running them a bath, cooking dinner, sending then for an afternoon nap or just giving them a big hug – it’s the little things that let her know she’s doing a great job and you love her.