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Relight your fire

Top tips to get your love life back on track

Having a baby is an amazing experience but it can put a little bit of dampener on your love life

If the last time you saw sparks was on Bonfire Night – and we’re talking last year, not last month, then it’s time to get your mojo back. Are you ready? Then here’s how...

At a glance

  • Make time for yourself
  • Spend time with your partner
  • Don’t feel guilty
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Have patience

It can help to recognise it took 9 months plus whatever time it is since you gave birth to put you in this situation so allow yourself some time to get out of it.

Address your tiredness

You both need to work out a plan that gives each of you as much as you require - 6 or 7 or 8 hours a night. Try cat napping in the day, taking turns to assume sole command and don’t hesitate to use earplugs or eye masks to stay down and under when it’s your turn to rest.

Accept help

Ask grandparents, and even other relatives who offer, to look after a child for an afternoon, a day or even a night to allow you to get some rest.

Spend time together

Once you’re less tired, make some effort to be with each other as a couple rather than just a pair of child-carers. It’s easy to lose the spark when you never have any time to be alone together.

Reminisce over romance

Think about the last time you made mad, passionate love and recreate some of the elements - a night out, a bath together or sharing a massage.

Don’t feel guilty

Remind yourself that you both deserve this, focus on what you’d like and give that to your partner - they’ll get the message.

At a glance

  • Make time for yourself
  • Spend time with your partner
  • Don’t feel guilty
Think about the last time you made mad, passionate love and recreate some of the elements

Relight your fire