Having a baby is an amazing experience but it can put a little bit of dampener on your love life
If the last time you saw sparks was on Bonfire Night – and we’re talking last year, not last month, then it’s time to get your mojo back. Are you ready? Then here’s how...
At a glance
- Make time for yourself
- Spend time with your partner
- Don’t feel guilty
It can help to recognise it took 9 months plus whatever time it is since you gave birth to put you in this situation so allow yourself some time to get out of it.
Address your tiredness
You both need to work out a plan that gives each of you as much as you require - 6 or 7 or 8 hours a night. Try cat napping in the day, taking turns to assume sole command and don’t hesitate to use earplugs or eye masks to stay down and under when it’s your turn to rest.
Ask grandparents, and even other relatives who offer, to look after a child for an afternoon, a day or even a night to allow you to get some rest.
Spend time together
Once you’re less tired, make some effort to be with each other as a couple rather than just a pair of child-carers. It’s easy to lose the spark when you never have any time to be alone together.
Reminisce over romance
Think about the last time you made mad, passionate love and recreate some of the elements - a night out, a bath together or sharing a massage.
Don’t feel guilty
Remind yourself that you both deserve this, focus on what you’d like and give that to your partner - they’ll get the message.
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