If you’d rather not, you’re not alone – especially if you’ve had a baby in the past year.
In fact it seems many new mums would rather talk about anything else - including the weather - rather than this topic.
At a glance
- It can take a while to get your sex drive back
- Spend time building your relationship
- Focus on building your confidence
We interviewed 2001 mums asking them about their views on sex during pregnancy and after becoming a mum and here are some of the results:
- 54% of mums-to-be feel confident about sex and intimacy
- Following pregnancy, just 3 out of 10 mums feel any degree of confidence
- It can take up to a year to get back that confidence in bed
- More mums felt that there is more information regarding sex available during pregnancy than afterwards.
- 2/3 of mums would like us to help with information on sex after pregnancy.
Get your sex life back on track...
Tiredness, limited opportunities and concerns over what it will be like can all put you off making love in the weeks following your baby’s birth, so don’t worry!
When you are ready to go ahead, make sure you’re using contraception
Make sure the conditions are right; baby fast asleep, both of you relaxed
Take it slowly and gently; if it hurts, say so
Cuddling, touching and kissing may be enough to begin with. Building it back up slowly is sensible
Use plenty of lubricant if you need to, to make penetration easier
If you find sex painful after the first few times, see your doctor or go to your Family Planning Clinic. You might have stitches, or a scar, that haven’t healed properly
Use your six week check to ask about any problems you’re having with sex.