How to cope with a crying baby
And in the first few weeks and months you’ll find your little one cries quite a bit – it’s their way of letting you know something is wrong, or that they simply need something.
Some may cry often, while others are that little bit more chilled out.
As a mum, it’s our natural instinct to react to your little one’s cries in order to feed, change and comfort them. However, we’re not superwomen and it’s completely normal to feel anxious if your baby cries often and for long periods of time.
There are a range of cries that experts claim can be paired to certain needs – but sometimes it doesn’t help when your little one just won’t stop crying.
Coping with a crying baby
Even the strongest of mums need a helping hand when it comes to a crying baby so rope in the reinforcements.
Share the responsibility with your other half and take turns to try and comfort your little one. Although the crying may test your patience, try and remain calm with each other. An already unsettled baby will sense the tension, and shouting at each other won’t do anything to calm anyone down.
Alternatively, take a well-earned break and rope in eager to help family members and close friends to take over for an hour. If you’re not confident about totally walking away, take solace upstairs while your baby and friends are downstairs.
Take your little one out
The thought of staying at home in your PJs and watching TV in between your baby’s crying episodes may seem like a good option, but getting out and about may help calm your little one down. Rocking or pushing your baby in a pram can sometimes help with soothing, or if they want to be close to you invest in a sling, which is also great for carrying your little one around the house when you need to get chores done.
It’s just noise…White noise
Some mums swear certain music genres calm their babies down. Experts also believe that certain sounds go some way to helping calm a baby down. This includes anything from ‘white noise’ to the sound of the hoover.
There are a range of apps which offer such noises so download them onto your mobile or tablet on loudspeaker. Teddies echoing the sound of the placenta or heartbeat are also available to make your baby feel as though they are back in your womb.
Run a bath
Baths are great for calming anyone down so use this as a time to settle both yourself and your baby. Dim the lights and sit behind your little one so their back is on your tummy. Gently massage your baby’s belly and toes to try and relax them.
Is it colic?
Colic is what the medical world calls excessive, frequent crying in a baby who seems to be healthy and full up.
You may find that if your little one has colic they’ll display the symptoms – a red flushed face, clenched fists, drawing their knees to their tummy and arching their back – usually in the late afternoon or evening.
However, it’s a really common condition and can affect up to one in five babies, starting within the first few weeks of your little one’s life. The good news is that it will usually stop by the time they hit the four to six month stage and this period of their life won’t affect them in the future.
Crying out for help?
It’s more than normal to feel that you can’t take any more if you have a baby that cries all the time. Don’t be ashamed to ask for help; ask your health visitor if there is any local support for parents of crying babies. Some areas also run a telephone helpline, while forums are also a great place to speak to mums in the same boat.
CRY-SIS is an organisation, which offers support through a helpline 0845 1228 669. Here you can talk to mums who have had crying babies themselves, and know just what you’re going through.