How do I bond with my bump?

A handy list of ways you can bond with your bump

How to bond with your bump

It's hard to picture what your new baby will look like, but it's never too early to start bonding with your bump

Woman holding bump

When you’re pregnant, your body will naturally release hormones that help to build the bond between you and your baby. But that needn’t stop you from getting to know your bump a little bit more, helping both you and your partner feel closer to your little one before they arrive.

Below we’ve listed 7 tips that you can use to help you to bond with your bump.

1. Sing like no one is listening (except your baby!)

Throughout your pregnancy your baby’s senses are developing, and from week 23, they’ll be able to hear sounds from outside the womb. This is a great opportunity for you and your partner to sing and talk to your bump, to help them get used to the sound of your voices. It may feel a little strange to do at first, but give it a go singing a nursery rhyme or even singing along to the radio. You’ll soon settle into it and may even get your baby dancing!

2. Bump massage

From around 3 months pregnant, it’s safe for you to gentle massage your bump and this can be a great way to bond with your bump and baby.
Many mums-to-be find this to be a relaxing way to unwind and bond with their bump, whilst it can also be a nice way to include your partner in the bonding experience. After the first trimester you’re also safe to use carrier oils during massage, including lavender, which can help you to relax and unwind.

3. Take a walk

It’s important to keep yourself active during your pregnancy, and whilst it’s not recommended you do anything too strenuous, a gentle walk can be a great way to get some exercise and bond with your bump. Taking a walk on your own can be a good way to get out the house and clear your mind, whilst also affording a great opportunity to try out the talking techniques mentioned above. If you’re new to exercise, then start with a shorter walk, before building up to a longer walk of 20 or so minutes, at a pace you feel comfortable at.

4. Go for a swim

If walking isn’t your thing, then swimming is a great way to get some exercise, take the weight off and bond with your bump. Performing some gentle swimming can be a great way to relax, and gives you a chance to show your bump off to the world. If you’re not keen to swim alone, but still want some exercise, then an aquanatal class can be a great way to combine bonding time, exercise and a chance to meet some other mums-to be.

5. Have a bath

Continuing the water theme, having a bath can be a great way to unwind and spend some time with your bump.
It’s important to ensure the bath water isn’t too hot, but warm water will be fine. A bath can be a great time to try out some bump massage techniques, or spend some time laying still and focusing on your baby’s movements and kicks.

6. Try pregnancy yoga

Yoga has many health benefits and can be beneficial both when pregnant and once your baby has arrived. Antenatal yoga classes can help you to relax, focus on your body and allow you to spend some time thinking about and feeling closer to your growing baby. It’s usually recommended to start yoga during your second trimester, and if you haven’t done it before it’s easy to pick up and learn. Along with the relaxation and bonding, an added bonus with Yoga is the opportunity to learn breathing technique which can be useful during labour.

7. Involve your partner

Carrying a baby around for 9 months gives you ample opportunity to bond with your bump; but often a partner can miss out on the special moments of pregnancy including feeling your baby move around inside. A nice way to involve your partner could involve asking them to massage your bump or talking to your bump so that they start to get used to yours and your partners voice. You might also want to take your partner’s hand when you feel some movement, and have them experience the kicks for themselves!

How do I bond with my bump?